Did you NOT know that scripture clearly states that a non-virgin is a married one?
The Genesis of scripture illuminates the truth of God, with the marriage of Adam and Eve:
"Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh."
The keyword is cleave. There is no mention nor inference of a wedding, nor of a pastor or priest, nor of a justice of the peace.
Jesus refers to that passage in Genesis when defining marriage. In Matthew 19:6 he says,
"Have ye not read,
that he which made them at the beginning
made them male and female, and said,
"For this cause shall a man leave father and mother,
and shall cleave to his wife:
and they twain shall be one flesh?
Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh.
What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder."
But Paul really sinks the clincher in 1st Corinthians 6:16, when he also quotes that defining passage in Genesis 2:24:
"What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh."
Is a non-virgin joined, or is Paul a liar?
So why do Christians so quickly gloss over when reading thru these passages, when the conduct of both the church and our society insist that the truth is something quite opposite?
"You aren't married until the preacher says you are", they say, "and until you sign on the dotted line". And they claim it's all about a ceremony, a "covenant", and legal declaration.
So was Jesus lying that it's an act of God?
Was Paul over stating the facts when he said a harlot and her customer are joined, just as Adam was to Eve?
In the past ten years, I've asked many pastors this question. They have mostly dodged answering some way. Some have tried to analyze my reputation, some hide behind their "doctrinal statements".
One pastor who I met for coffee said, "I agree 99 percent" but could not commit because of his "official position".
After I stopped meeting them for coffee and asked for a written statement, most flatly refuse to comment. Some have completely excluded me from their fellowship for raising this issue.
Another pastor said "it must be some other joining Paul is referring to", but wouldn't say what that joining is.
Basically, these pastors fear for their jobs. Hirelings, watching over the flock.
Christians in general feel it is their right to ignore scripture, provided their pastors have made a clear statement to the contrary.
When one reads the outcome of the Twenty-Fourth Session of the "Council of Trent" it can be understood why such doctrines can't be challenged. We have such fear fearmongering to tell us what to think instead of listening to the Holy Spirit.
Some influential men gathered together in 1536 and proclaimed their "DOCTRINE ON THE SACRAMENT OF MATRIMONY" and their "DECREE ON THE REFORMATION OF MARRIAGE", amongst a multitude of other things. In it they make many spiritual sounding threats against anyone who disagrees.
It seems their goal was to relieve the folk of the important task of defining this for themselves. To make them doubt the obvious.
But if Christians do not define this for themselves, using their bible, then they will forever embrace the so-called civility and "morality" which they have been blinded by since childhood:
And if anyone thinks they haven't been mesmerized enough by that satanic endeavor they can re-visit the twenty-fourth session of the "Council of Trent" as it was immortalized, in an era when the drum beat of fear was power. http://history.hanover.edu/texts/trent/ct24.html
But instead, why not simply open your bible and read the words of your Master, and seek the truth for yourself?
If you insist that a non-virgin who has never been "wed" is one who merely "sinned", are you calling an act of God sin?
If you insist that this same non-virgin can then go out and have a wedding with a second man, are you blessing what is called Adultery?
I'm not going to spell it out for you, but if you feel you have good biblical evidence to the contrary, feel free to contact me. And if you can see that a non-virgin IS joined for life, I urge you to call to notice the organized religous straight jacket that so many wear.
I also challenge you to analyze polygamy. It is denied for: All women, men who have divorced a woman, kings, and church leaders.